I was talking to a co-worker the other day. She was complaining about her ex husband and all the stuff that goes with a nasty divorce.
Side note** If you are considering divorce and have kids (even if you don't) try to figure out a way to make it a civil divorce. It is hard but, it can be done, I have seen it happen.
So, back to my story. She was complaining and was telling me that some of his family members were bad mouthing her to the child. One not cool to do but, unfortunately it happens. She kept on and on about how this isn't fair, it's not right, bla bla bla (I am just saying the complaining kept going)
Finally, I asked her why does she care so much about what other people say about her? She was taken back and said "I don't".
In turn I said "Then why are you concerned with this?"
I told her it was none of her business what others thought of her. Yes, I will say that again.
It is none of your business what others think or say about you.
Do your own thing!!! Be the person you want to be!!! Love yourself enough not to care what others think of you. Be Brave and live the life you want to live!! You will feel so much better and have less drama in your life.
Make boundaries for yourself. Set them so that you will tolerate less DRAMA!!
What does it mean to have boundaries? What are you NOT willing to put up with?
A person talking negative about co-workers? Tell the person you don't want to talk about it. Change the subject. Walk away. Do what feels right for you. You don't have to listen to it.
Set your boundaries and put limits on what you will put up with. Once these are in place less drama will come your way. People will know you don't want to hear it. So, they won't bring it to you.
Love yourself by not putting up with the bullshit. PERIOD!!
Have a great day Peeps!!