Why are we so quick to cut each other down? Why do we tolerate the drama?
Because we don't want to hurt others feelings? What about your own feelings? Don't they matter? They should.
Everyone talks about wanting more peace and love in their lives but, they continue to let the drama run their lives.
Here is the deal... We know who brings the drama. We know who stresses us out. So, why are you spending so much time with these people? Hhhhhuuuummmm Good question.
To get to the more peace and love part you need to evaluate your relationships. ALL OF THEM. If you have a friend that you are always there for and the favor is never returned...... maybe less time or NO time with them is the answer. Do you have family that you seriously DREAD seeing? See them less, only on holidays for a short period of time.
Limit the time or cut the person out completely. Yes, you have permission to cut a person out of your life. It doesn't give you the right to be a jerk about it but, you have the CHOICE to leave them behind if they are not willing to help you grow. I am not saying this is one sided and all about you (but, really it is) but, I am saying maybe it is time to make new friends that will support you. Help you achieve the goals you set out to get.
If drama is in the office avoid the drama queen. PERIOD only talk business with them. If they start to bad mouth another employee then SHUT IT DOWN. You do not have to listen to them and let them bring your vibe DOWN. The whole point of this is to raise your vibe to more love and peace. Listening to her bitch is not going to help you do that. Respect yourself and others by not listening to it or taking part in the bad mouthing even if you agree with them. You will be a pot stirer too.
Here are a few ways to shed light on having more peace and love for yourself.
* Distance yourself from the drama person or people.
Find ways to limit the time with them. If at work and they sit in the break room with you put headphones in or read a book to keep the drama out!! If you can wear headphones while you work even better. Listen to up lifting podcasts or books on audio.
* Tell yourself you deserve peace and make it happen.
Make having peace in your life a priority. Yes, you will have to work at it and make it a habit just like everything else you do. Make it your #1 self care ritual. Mediate, sit quietly, take a different perspective on life. Ask your higher power for help. Whatever you need to do to find the peace.
* Take time for yourself each day.
Taking time to reflect and truly start to understand yourself and ACCEPT yourself will lead to a more peaceful life. Do not under estimate the power of mediation. You can take 5 minutes a day and start making a difference in your life. Make it a habit. Do it while in the shower, going to the bathroom, right before you go to sleep. Just sit with yourself. Listen don't say a word. Just listen to your breath and be calm. You can do it for 5 minutes.
* Stay strong when the drama queen starts her shit.
When a drama person is starting to "stir the pot" and cause drama tell them you are not a part of it and don't want to hear it. Be nice but, firm about it. Stand your ground and tell them you are not having it!!
* Find a new perspective on the situation or person.
Looking at a person or situation differently can really change how you handle that person. Make it a game with yourself to be nice to a person you find difficult to be kind too.
Look at the WHY. Why does this person get on your nerves so bad? Maybe it is a reflection of something you do? If you are honest with yourself and see the reason then you can treat that person totally different and have a different relationship with them. (For the better of course).
* Continue to grow as a person.
Always keep bettering yourself. Always find ways to grow. Read books or listen to them, listen to podcasts, TED talks, there are so many ways to get your vibes going up and staying there. Look at yourself and see where you can be better. Once you start to pay attention to the way you are living you will realize how to get the peace you want more often.
Hope this opens your eyes to a better way of life and a better you.
Always be moving forward even if it is baby steps.
Have a great day Peeps!!
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