This time of year is SUPPOSE to be happy and fun and magical.
It really isn't that way for all, if you are stressed about presents you don't have the money to buy. Having to choose between paying the bills and getting your kids Christmas. Being alone while everyone around you seems to have someone. Family isn't near or your not talking to them.
This time of year is stressful and can be very sad. People miss their loved ones that are no longer with them. A lot of different reasons that people are sad this time of year. Here are a few things to consider.
BE NICE! Even if someone is being shitty, be nice. Try putting yourself in their shoes. They may not be upset with you at all but, with the other stress in their life, may be the reason for the outburst. So, be nice but, don't be a door mat. Got it?
If you know a friend is depressed watch for signs. They may be covering it up. Watch to see if they are drinking more, sleeping more or just plain acting different. Be concerned if they start to give away items that are precious to them. Keep in touch with them but, keep yourself healthy. Set boundaries for yourself. Try to get them out of the house and outside or to do other fun stuff they like to do.
Sometimes a person just needs to get it off their chest. Feeling better after you say it out loud sometimes help. Be a sound board for them. Most the time you won't have to say a word. Mostly just hugs and hold space for them.
I understand the darkness of the holidays. It isn't always an easy time for people. I had lost my father to suicide. I speak about it and want people to understand how much pain people can be in. The feeling is blinding to some. So much they take their own lives. They see suicide as the only "way out" or to stop the pain they have been feeling. People can be desperate for help and not know how to ask for it. Ask them. Tell them you are concerned and let them know you care. Leave the suicide prevention number at their house or text it to them letting them know you care.
We have to talk about depression and suicide this is the only way we can over come it. We shed light on it and chase the darkness away.
People love you and want to have you around. Ask for help. Call a friend if that feels like to much then call suicide prevention hot line. They won't know who you are but, are willing to help.
Please consider calling. It is hard on your loved ones too.
Call 1-800-273-8255 Suicide Prevention