ATTENTION LADIES!!! Show this one to your guys too.
I have discovered some very important LIES I have been telling myself over the years. You may be able to relate.
Having a period has always (for me) been perceived as a "hassle" "dirty" "shameful". Let's not talk about it because it is too embarrassing for guys or girls.
No one came out and told me these words but, they "acted" like it was a big fat stupid thing. Boyfriends would ask "Are you on the rag?" I took it as I was bitching and needed to stop.
Friends wouldn't talk about period problems that were coming up. I took it as " I am the only one."
So I developed this crazy story around my period that I should be nice and suffer in silence. Don't talk about it and "get through it" on my own. Just deal with it!
Jump to many, many, many years later with help from my AMAZING Life Coach. (She is teaching me a lot!!) I have discovered I was being mean to Joe and men for no reason during my period. They weren't doing anything to get on my nerves. They was just breathing. lol That pissed me off!!! I started to take note of this and would hold my tongue on a lot of stupid stuff. I did not discuss this with them I just "suffered in silence" like I was taught. After some work I discovered... I was being mean because I was JEALOUS!! WTF???? Jealous? Jealous of what?
Jealous..... because they didn't have to go through this each month. Let that sink in. Are you being a bitch to your man because he doesn't have to go through this? Maybe?
Maybe he is being a jerk?
Here is the thing, we need to be a little more understand with ourselves. Our partners need to be a little more understand as well and take care of US a little more during this time of the month. With hugs and cuddles or just doing the laundry and dishes.
We give BIRTH Ladies!!! Little humans live in us!! That is a big fuckin deal!! We are the only ones that have populated this world. YEAH, you are THAT important!! We take care of everyone and everything. So, take time to chill a little more and care of yourself. We have been trained to push through and get EVERYTHING done!! We can't do it all!! We need help and asking for it doesn't make you weak. It gives you a break. We all need a break from time to time especially when we feel poopie.
Ask the men in your life to be more understand and considerate towards you. Our bodies go through a LOT each month. He should be gentle with you and give you the support you need. STOP bitching about us bitching!! That doesn't help us feel better. Understand and be NICE even if we are snapping at them.
Ask him to love you and do extra that week. Pull more then his weight. Would it kill him to do that? I think not.
Just remember Ladies if you want him to understand and be a little more considerate then you have to be nice about it. Give and get that is how you get the help you want.
Have a Happy Period Boos!!